it never even occurred to me to "keep zander all to myself", i don't even know what that means. he is the most rich. soil that a farmer would kill for. any good and godly seed that is planted in his heart sprouts and grows. God has set caretakers over His son's plot: his family, friends, students, strangers are all used to help sanctify this boy. and what! i am the one that most takes advantage of it. for i have a better lover for it in the end. so thank - you!